When Success Stands Us Up

In our pursuit for success there are unlimited sources of good advice, how-to-do’s, check lists, cheat sheets, books, inspirational quotes ,videos from gurus and experts and blogs to assure we get there.

But what happens when you apply it all, have done your research, used all your contacts, paid for customized ads for your specific audience, shared your project in the press, invested hours and hours on communicating in social media, sacrificed your family and friends, prepared like never before, done your affirmations, written your goal-cards, created the most beautiful dream-board, believe in the depth of your soul that you’d make it,you’ve goneall in – but,there’s no win?

How is it possible?

1. Recreate Your Thoughts

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 Positive Thoughts

Even more interesting, how does it feel, to fail? Well, I can tell you how it felt for me. Over a seven months period, my whole existence focused on one thing - writing my first book. A childhood dream come true. Not just any book, but the story of my life. How I, with my low self-esteem, picked Mr.

Wrong to be my partner, had three babies in a year, ended up a single mother in a foreign country far from my family, had to work fulltime to support my children, with no sleep as there was always one of three babies keeping me awake and then finally how I collapsed from a severe burnout. As I actually managed to write a book about it,

2. Be Happy

be happy

Story Behind the Smiles

I’m happy to say I found a way to recover and create a new foundation. Writing my story was painful, as I went through it all over again, sort of. But my message was strong and kept me going. After three months, when I launched my book, I immediately started writing my book again, only this time in my mother tongue (Swedish).

For obvious reasons, my English book did not have quite the success I had dreamed of, as I did not know how to market it or myself and I was too eager to get my Swedish book ready.

3. Resource Gathering

accountability

Effective Time Management 

I learned my lesson, and for my second book I applied all the things I didn’t do for my first launch. I invested every day, evening and week-end, to learn how to have massive success as a self-published author. I even did a Bestseller Blueprint program to guarantee my success. I basically begged my friends and family to support my launch and help me get the word out.

I over-delivered to make sure I would make an Amazon bestseller in my category, which to be quite honest, is not very difficult if you use all available channels and strategies. In my agenda, on my fridge, on my bathroom mirror, all over my house – there were post-it’s with “BESTSELLER” written on them, implementing the law of attraction and getting my mindset aligned!

4. Never Look Back

never look back

Top Ideas To Start A Business

What happened to my bestseller success story? Amazon does not exist in Sweden. People go to the book store and buy a paperback. Some buye-books, but from a local Swedish search engine I had never heard of. OK, I agree, I could have done more research and perhaps I would have found out. But hey, I thought the whole world buys books from Amazon.

Very painful learning. Glued to my PC, totally excited to FINALLY make “bestseller of the day” I closed the world out; only me, my PC and the F5 “refresh” button existed.

5. Effective Preparation 

effective preparation 

Mantras of Success for Preparation

I did a giveaway on Kindle, so any and every one could download my e-book for FREE. In spite of all the work and preparation I had invested in my launch, it was not a great success. It felt more like a great big F-word. Failure.I allowed myself an afternoon to feel really low about it. I called my father and cried about how miserable I felt, even frustrated and to be quite honest, I even sank so low I felt angry.

Angry and disappointed with “people” for not supporting my project. It’s shameful to admit, but I believe it’s human to feel like that, at least for a short moment before we snap out of the self-pity.My father said things that made me irritated. I thought he was being way too positive, but already during the conversation I realized he was right. It wasn’t over. My book can still become a bestseller. Just not exactly in the way I wanted it.

6. Respect Your Feelings

respect your feelings

Ideas to Start Good Day

Sharing my feelings of failure with my friends and coaching community was a great investment and it truly helped me to re-load and courageously start over again. Even if some of these points are not easy to accept when we’re in the middle of painfully dealing with a failure or shortcoming, after a while, they will sink in, lift you up, kick you in the butt and make you move on!Mistakes and failure are painful when they happen. But years later, your collection of mistakes called experience will lead to your Success. (Achieve Your Goals)

10 powerful thoughts to help you move on after failure

  1. First of all, know that Failure is an unavoidable place we must pass on the road to Success.
  2. Make peace with it, accept what is and go after it again.
  3. Use the failure to be more focused on your next project.
  4. Try to appreciate the failure, as it inevitably pushes us to grow and expand (unless we roll over and play dead).
  5. Ask yourself: why did it not work? Use the answer/s to improve your next attempt.
  6. Study others who already succeeded in the same area. What did they do differently than you?
  7. Repeat: “it’s a numbers game”. If you never give up and you keep on going, you WILL succeed. Look at Edison, he made TEN THOUSAND attempts before he succeeded to create a light bulb that worked. Decide to beat Edison in number of attempts!
  8. What can I do NOW to start over and move forward? This will push you gently into a creative mode.
  9. Success in life comes when you simply refuse to give up, with goals so strong that obstacles, failure and loss only act as motivation.
  10. The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.

ByAnnica Torneryd

Annica C. Törneryd, success coach and founder of ACT2exceed. High-achiever born a winner, competed in several different sports, champion in full-contact kickboxing, former American Red Cross lifeguard. Worked 15 years in the corporate world for the European Parliament and before that worked in 5 different countries in 2 continents. Love to set goals, take action and follow through to get massive results! Self-published author of The Last Single Mom.

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