Passive Aggressive Communication
When aggression takes a non-verbal form and results in negative behavior, it is termed Passive Aggressive Behavior. People showing these symptoms usually do not express their negative feelings through words in a direct way, but when you watch their words carefully, you can sense that they are using a Passive Aggressive Communication. Let us see some common phrases people use when exhibiting this behavior.
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When people are angry, but still say “I'm not angry” it is a clear sign that they are holding up their emotions and planning to express it in a different way at a later stage.
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If you notice some people withdraw from a conversation or an argument suddenly, it is clear that they do not want to express their feelings directly. They may just say “Whatever” and move ahead, to avoid an argument.
When people say that they will be coming to a meeting or doing a job and do not fulfill that, it is usually a case of them expressing their anger in this way. Sometimes, they will just say so on your face even when they have no intention of fulfilling the task.
They expect people to know about any problems even when they have not shared any information about them. This is usually done deliberately to express their anguish.
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Giving backhanded compliments is one of the main traits of these people. They enjoy the process and love to see your reaction to those compliments.
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Some people start sulking only to get some sympathy and attention from near and dear ones. They may become suddenly silent and avoid meeting people while doing this.
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Forgetting something intentionally is also a clear sign of Passive Aggressive Behavior. They just want to hurt others' feelings by being disrespectful to them.
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People sometimes blame others instead of taking responsibility for their situation. Even though it appears normal, if it is always done, you can see signs of Passive aggression. They will always make excuses for not doing things and blame others.
When you notice these statements or behavior in your friends or family members, you can be sure that they are using passive aggression. When you observe carefully, even you may be using the same at times. This will never help you move forward in life. You can avoid this by taking responsibility for your action and expressing your feelings to others in a direct way. This will avoid all the confusion and unwanted negative emotions that come with Passive Aggressive Communication.