People say “Forgive and Forget”. But how hard it is to follow in real life, only the person in that particular situation knows. If you have been ever wronged, you know what I am talking about. You never want to talk to them or see them in your entire life. You even wish ill for them if the grievance is strong. Revenge may also creep into your life mission. While it is good to express your feelings and you have the right to it, the constant dwelling on the past and on your hurts may do nothing to the person/ persons who have wronged you. Instead, it just aggravates your negative feeling and your overall well-being.
At times you might find it even harder to forgive than usual when it comes to certain people who are unworthy of your forgiveness. But it is important to remember that no one is inherently a bad person- even if they are psycho rapists and murderers. In those times, you need to let the legal system take action but in order to move ahead and lead a happy life, you need to forgive. Circumstances lead to someone being bad and the atrocities they commit may be nothing more than a cry for help. Believe in the good in this world and try to put yourself in their shoes- it might become easier for you to forgive.
Don’t get me wrong. It is definitely not advisable to suppress your feelings. What is good for you, however, is to channel those feelings constructively. Holding on to your grievances for a long time ensures that you are always trapped in your pain and cannot move past that and lead your life to its full potential. Deep within, it feels like being the victim becomes an essential part of your existence and it becomes hard for the victim in you to let go of your sob story. The trick to getting over such situations is to fully accept your situation, mourn it, forgive and let it go. Bottling up your emotions can increase chances of anxiety and depression, which will inevitably lead to high blood pressure and heart disorders.