Find the Girl of Your Dreams
First you get angry, then your anger becomes hate and after a certain number of rejections you come to a point where you just want to give up. You reach a certain threshold where you think to yourself that you just don’t have what it takes and that you will never be able to find a girlfriend who loves you for who you are.
You stop approaching women and you promise yourself that you will never get rejected again.Stop!Don’t even think about giving up. Don’t even think about ending your journey towards becoming an amazing man who is able to attract the girl of his dreams. About three years ago I was in the same situation as you are right now.
At the beginning of my journey I got rejected left and right and with every rejection my level of self-confidence decreased. The reason why I became less and less motivated to continue my journey was not because I got rejected, but because I gave it the wrong meaning. In my eyes every rejection I got was a proof of my inability to seduce women.
I regarded every single “no” as another sign that I should better give up. Once I realized that this poisonous way of thinking was the true reason for my miserable dating life, I decided to reframe rejection and my success rate with women skyrocketed.
Instead of regarding getting rejected as a sign that I was not good enough, I started to interpret it as a sign that she was not the right girl for me.Instead of thinking that every interaction with a woman that ended with a rejection was a waste of time, I saw it as a great chance to say “hi” to another woman who wants to get to know me.
It might sound weird and unbelievable, but this simple mindset shift allowed me to enjoy getting rejected and to approach more and more girls who were happy to give me their phone numbers.
Regard Every Mistake as an Opportunity to Learn
What do most guys do when they mess up an interaction with a woman?
They get frustrated, they get angry and sometimes they even start to hate themselves. I think I don’t have to tell you that this behavior is anything but beneficial if you want to learn how to attract amazing women. The huge mistake that 90% of men make is that every mistake drags them down, even though it actually would have the power to lift them up. (Things to Do when you Feel like Giving up)
When you label a mistake as something negative that should be avoided at all cost, you won’t allow yourself to take the action that is necessary in order to find the woman of your dreams. If you, on the other hand, label a mistake as an experience that gives you the opportunity to learn, to grow and to improve yourself, you will be motivated to take action. Eventually, the amount of action you take determines how successful you will become with women.
Visualize Your Goal
Visualization is a technique that allows professional athletes to reach goals that are considered as unrealistic, so why shouldn’t it help you to meet and attract women who you consider to be out of your league?
When I first experimented with this powerful tool I didn’t really believe in it. I always thought that visualizing my goals and certain scenarios wouldn’t have an impact on the interactions I had with women in the real world.
I was so wrongThe more approaches and conversations I visualized, the more confident I became during my interactions with women. The more I visualized my goals, the easier it became to reach them. If you have never worked with the concept of visualization, you should give it a shot, even if you don’t believe in it.
Accept That it Takes as Long as it Takes
I promised myself that I won’t ever allow another woman to hurt me and to reject me. All I wanted was to give up.Today I have a girlfriend who I would describe as the most wonderful woman I have ever met, I teach men all over the world the honest and authentic way of attracting women and I can confidently say that I live the life of my dreams.
The reason why I tell you this is not because I want to brag, but because I want to show you that having success with women is possible, even if you have reached a point where you want to give up.
I have reached this point more than once, but the right beliefs, techniques and countless of aha moments kept me going. Allow me to support you by sharing what I have learned during my transformation from a shy guy who nearly cried after every rejection to a man who enjoys nothing more than interacting with beautiful women. (Beautiful Quotes About Life)
The reason why so many men don’t stay motivated to find the girl of their dreams is not because they don’t reach success fast enough, but because they believe it should go faster. We live in a time that offers instant coffee, instant noodles and instant gratification. Unfortunately, the later is nothing but a lie.
Hundreds of clever internet marketers fed you the lie that you can attract every woman you want within one hour and without lifting a finger. You might even believe those lies because your ego loves the idea of instant gratification. As a result of that you give up before you even start.
It is impossible for you to motivate yourself to go out and approach women every day, because this one product promises you that you can find the girl of your dreams within less than an hour. Today it is time to leave this lie behind you and to accept that there is no such thing as overnight success. It takes as long as it takes and the sooner you accept this, the sooner you lie next to the girl of your dreams.