If we are honest, we all do this from time to time. It’s putting things off, deliberating to such an extent that no action takes place. There are times that need careful consideration, but that’s not the same as procrastination. In fact we are most likely to procrastinate, when the task ahead of us is the one we don’t want to do.
The reason for that is it takes us out of our comfort zone. So next time you find yourself thinking I’ll leave for a while, ask yourself why you aren’t doing it right now. The danger is that procrastination becomes a habit and one that will stop success in its tracks.
Success rarely comes to people who won’t take risks and if you take a risk there is always the chance that it won’t work. Lots of successful people have tried things that haven’t worked out – but they wouldn’t necessarily view them as failures, in fact often success eventually comes from what they’ve learned from those experiences.
It doesn’t mean, you take every ‘risk’ but if you want to be successful taking a risk is going to be essential at some point. Failure needn’t crush you if you have it framed in your mind in the right way. Some things just won’t work out. But if you can get up and continue, it’s not a failure it’s just an obstacle overcome.
Any journey is easier when you know where you are going. The ultimate destination may change but when you set off, or in order to keep going with any real pace, you have to have an end point in mind. In business that is particularly important and it’s why business coaching can be helpful – because if you feel unsure then it is very easy to start going in all sorts of directions without getting any nearer to where you want to be.
Try to be really specific – it’s not always useful just to say you want to be successful in business – what does that mean? Is it making money from training, having your book published, getting a lot of traffic to your website, selling more of a product this month than you did last month. By being specific about the success, you are aiming at a specific direction.
Focus is different from direction. Many people may know exactly where they want to go, but they keep wandering, distracted by other things. Often these are the things that look helpful. More training, another network meeting, or selling additional products, they might all be good things at the right time but they might also be things that detract from your current plan.
Be honest and ask yourself, will this actually help you at the current time. Training is obviously useful, so is networking and expanding product range but is right now the best time to do that or will it simply mean that you are being distracted from your primary goal.
This can be real killer for success, but can be fixed. How do you know if you have a lack of self-belief? The sub- conscious mind gives you a pretty negative running commentary – ‘look how you messed that up’, ‘you’ll never be successful’ etc.
But you can challenge that, after all it’s your subconscious. So just counter those lies with some truth. Create a success mantra for yourself - ‘I can be successful, I may make mistakes but I will be successful’. Repeat as often as you need too.
After initially training as a nurse then teacher, I worked in care and education settings and then
with local authorities and independent organisations for many years. In 2013 I trained as a therapist and started my own business, Attuned Education, offering tuition, training, therapy, coaching and consultancy. My first book ‘Ready to Learn’ aims to help teachers address the emotional needs of troubled children and young people and is due to be published By Worth Publishers in the next few months. My partner and I have three grown up children and onegrandson, and we share a love of music, travel, food and fun.