Are you a “glass half full”, “glass half empty” or “stop talking about the glass and fill it already” kind of person? Are people born with a positive outlook or negative view of life? Can you change your gut reactions if you want to?
According to research, our brains detect negativity more easily because historically, we’ve needed to identify threats to survive. As Dr. Rick Hanson, Ph.D. puts it in his book Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence, “ the brain’s negativity bias is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.”
Growing up, I had a friend who looked up to her mom. Like many daughters, she went to her for advice and thought her mom had all the answers. Then one day she repeated something her mom had told her and was her friends made fun of her.