Anthony Tony de Mello was a Jesuit priest and psychotherapist who became widely known for his books on spirituality. An internationally acclaimed spiritual guide, writer and public speaker, de Mello hosted many spiritual conferences.
"What Is Love? The Total Absence Of Fear Said The Master What Is It We Fear Love"
His quotes suggest that most of the people do not live aware lives which means that they live mechanical lives with mechanical thoughts which are imposed on they as they usually come from somebody else and thus are forced to have mechanical emotions and accordingly mechanical actions and reactions. He is of view that Loneliness cannot be cured by human company but can only be cured with contact with reality of life. He says where there is love , there cannot be any demands or conditions , there should be no dependency and similarly no expectations.
Anthony says that problems are the produce of human mind itself. We are really crazy to live on ideas of love and relationships and happiness. He very simply guides saying that pleasant experiences make life delightful and enjoyable whereas they are the painful experiences which actually lead to growth of any individual.
He quotes that Spirituality means waking up from the slumber . It means to understand the loveliness and beauty of the thing that we call human existence. He says it is really very tragic that most of the people never get to see that all is well because they are asleep and having a nightmare. They are born asleep, live asleep, marry in sleep , breed children when asleep and even die asleep without actually waking up. To acquire happiness you don't have to do anything, because happiness cannot be acquired. You've got to drop illusions. Life is easy, life is delightful. It's only hard on your illusions, your ambitions, your greed, your cravings.