TOP 10 Special Personality Traits of a Successful Loner
The world is full of amazing people! As of March 2019, the world population is recorded at 7.7 billion. Indeed, it is a crowded world! However, only a handful of people out of the total world population standout to not only make their mark but also are renowned in their own realm. The realm they had created in the past, create in the present and will always create in the future to satiate their loneliness with great success. These successful loners have left an indelible mark on our society since time immemorial.
It is amazing and ironical how society has labeled loners in our everyday lives. There are different labels, we humans use and if one searches the synonym of a ‘loner’ in dictionary, one will find words like ‘recluse’, ‘introvert’, ‘hermit’, ‘solitary’, ‘misanthrope’, ‘outsider’, ‘maverick’, ‘nonconformist’, ‘hikikomori’, ‘rare eremite’, ‘cenobite’, ‘anchorite’ and ‘solitudinarian’. There are many more synonyms. Isn’t it fascinating?
Successful loners are often treated as people, who are unfit to be part of the cultured society. However, this misconception and myth have often debated by many learned scholars. The precious contributions of successful loners have made a better world for the so-called educated society, who has often condemned them.
Sir Isaac Newton was an important personality in the world of Science. In spite of his amazing stature, he preferred his solitude and had fiercely protected his privacy during his living days. JK Rowling, the author who presented the world with Harry Potter’s world is one of the present generation’s most successful writers in the world. She recalled, “I had been writing almost continuously since the age of 6, but I had never been so excited about an idea before. To my immense frustration, I didn’t have a pen that worked, and I was too shy to ask anybody if I could borrow one.”
A loner is not a recluse or an introvert. Instead, s/he prefers loneliness because others are not up to her/his mental intelligence level. S/he values time rather than having worthless conversation or debate. Unraveling the mystery of a successful loner, Johnny D elucidates the ‘Top 10 Special Personality Traits of a Successful Loner’.
10. No One is Perfect
In our imperfect world, no one is really perfect. Each one of us has a number of flaws, which constitutes an individual’s personality traits. Majority of the world population are so preoccupied in the everyday life’s rigmarole that they don’t even bother to define self or else analyze their inner self. On the contrary, a successful loner is aware of the world’s imperfection. This awareness about the world’s imperfection makes a loner to concentrate towards a greater good for society.
Constantly thinking about solid consequences to benefit the world at large, a loner becomes an amazing thinker, who is exploring unchartered territories to solve the imperfection of the world in their respective fields. While the world looks at them in a condescending manner, it is the successful loners, who are working zealously in their realms to better the lives of the world. The world may never fathom the abyss of a successful loner. They prefer their loneliness rather than be part of the lost world.
Nobel laureate Albert Einstein, the world's most recognized and revered Physicists had stated in early 1900s, “The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind.” Einstein will always be remembered for developing the ‘Theory of Relativity’.
09. Strict Boundaries:
The second special personality trait of a successful loner is having strict boundaries. They prefer their boundaries are not invaded or infiltrated by others to disturb their realm’s peace and calmness. This may seem like a tall order for the world, who loves to label them as ‘recluse’. However, successful loners are content within their realm of strict boundaries. They will only allow their most trusted confidante or else very-very close friend(s). It is their comfort zone and they protect it with everything they have.
Charles Darwin, the renowned Scientists enjoyed his solitude in his own strict boundaries. German-born American poet, novelist and short story writer Heinrich Karl Bukowski had stated, “People empty me. I have to get away to refill.” Spanish painter, sculptor, printmaker, ceramicist, stage designer, poet, and playwright Pablo Picasso had rightly stated, “Without great solitude no serious work is possible.”
08. Knowledge is Power:
American prolific poet, novelist and memoirist Eleanore Marie Sarton described being a loner as, “Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.” This trait is what usually separates the loners from the rest of the world.
They know well that knowledge is power. Successful loners are vastly voracious readers, which enrich them to think more widely with logic. Books are their best companions, which provide them fodder for thoughts. Their immense knowledge of their subject of interest makes them an expert. They end up converting their expertise into fruitful results.
07. Very Empathetic:
Swiss Psychiatrist and Psychoanalyst Carl Gustav Jung, who founded ‘Analytical Psychology’, had stated long ago, “Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” An apt description of being a loner is to awake and arise, while the world dreams about illusionary life.
Successful loners have high level of understanding others. They do not label the world of lacking knowledge and understanding. They are very empathetic, because they understand how one feels when one is labeled or targeted by the society. This special trait helps successful loners to achieve better understanding of how the world revolves around its humans’ axis.
06. Focussed:
American Psychologist Laurie Helgoe, who specializes in the relationship between personality development and culture, had revealed in her studies that loners aka introverts constitute 57% of the world population. It is a fascinating revelation about loners. She had stated, “Introverts are collectors of thoughts, and solitude is where the collection is curated and rearranged to make sense of the present and future.”
A loner is a thousand times more focussed than any other ordinary extroverts. This special trait helps a loner to achieve a desired result in their ongoing quest. The exploration with a focussed mind achieves greater results.
05. Meticulous Approach:
American Jenn Granneman is the author of the bestselling book ‘The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World’. She believes, “Introverts live in two worlds: We visit the world of people, but solitude and the inner world will always be our home.” Granneman has beautifully described a loner. A loner’s approach is very meticulous.
They love their realm to be meticulously arranged, so that they are able to find everything with ease and their comfort. This special trait separates them from the rest of the world.
04. Calm & Composed:
American author Elliot Kay describes, “Silence is beautiful, not awkward. The human tendency to be afraid of something beautiful is awkward.” Successful loners have embraced silence more successfully to their advantage, unlike the world. This particular special trait helps successful loners to remain calm and composed in spite of all the bullying and world labels.
They are aware of their strength, because they have embraced the most powerful tool for humans to remain calm and composed in life. This special trait helps them to cope up with their worldly existence. They don’t get disheartened or else give up so easily.
03. Values TIME:
British Philosopher, Logician, Mathematician, Historian, Writer, Essayist, Social Critic, Political Activist and Nobel laureate Bertrand Russell had stated, “A happy life must be to a great extent a quiet life, for it is only in an atmosphere of quiet that true joy dare live.” One who values time, values life, and who better to understand this than a successful loner.
A loner dislikes how the world wastes time. This special trait gives them a higher edge in dealing with their struggle and quest to achieve the unexpected.
02. Aware of The Weakness as Their Strength
Albert Einstein had said, “Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living.” Successful loners are aware of their weakness. However, they don’t brood or sulk about their flaws. Their self-awareness leads them to convert their weakness into their strength.
One of the best examples is that of Stephen Hawking. The less said is better for the renowned and amazing Theoretical Physicist, Cosmologist and Author. How magnificently he turned his weakness into his strength. The world is simply awestruck with his marvelous ability to achieve such greatness in spite of his physical conditions. Stephen Hawking is truly an inspirational icon. He had stated, “Quiet people have the loudest minds.” The lesson of this special trait is that never underestimate a loner as a recluse or else a hikikomori.
01. Loyalty:
Loyalty is the No. 1 trait for successful loners, as well as, they expect loyalty from their very few close friends. Life revolves around loyalty for successful loners.
One of the main reasons for their success is their loyalty towards their quest and their friends’ loyalty. French-Cuban American Diarist, Essayist, Novelist and Writer of Short Stories Anais Nin rightly had stated, “Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again.”
